COUPLES/PARTNERS

Are you at a point where you feel your relationship is coming apart at the seams?  Does it seem like you or your partner has fallen out of love? Whether you’ve hit a major roadblock like an emotional or physical affair, a sense of betrayal, lack of trust, addictive behaviors, family stress or you can’t quite pinpoint what the problem is but just know it doesn’t feel like it used to, don’t give up hope.

 

I don’t need to tell you that creating and maintaining relationships can be exhausting. You may even find times that it doesn’t seem worth the effort to make it better. But I also know from personal experience and my work with couples, that when you pay real attention to each other and your relationship, magical things can happen.

 

I often get asked how I approach working with couples. While it takes getting to know a couple to build trust and figure out how both of you communicate and respond, my focus and training is with Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT).  Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is a therapeutic model that has been clinically demonstrated to improve relationships.  If you think back on the fights you’ve had with your partner, while the current stressor may be different, the overarching “theme” of the fights is similar.  By identifying that negative pattern together, I can help you make changes that lead to a healthy, loving relationship.

 

If you’ve hit the point where you don’t know what your partner needs from you emotionally and/or physically (or for that matter, you don’t even know what YOU need), then it’s time to let someone like me help you navigate the fighting or silence to figure out what’s really going on. 

 

Pre-Marriage Counseling

 

So, the “question” has been popped…and the answer is “YES.”   Before you know it, you’re caught up in the whirlwind of wedding planning!  The excitement you’re going through may feel like it will never end.  Why on earth would you want to go sit down with a therapist and bring up sensitive issues that may dampen the moment?  The truth is, those sensitive issues will surface sooner rather than later, so why not make a commitment to understanding one another before the “I dos?” Counseling prior to marriage can help you figure out questions that will have a much bigger impact down the road than the flavor of cake you serve on your special day.

 

Pre-Marriage Counseling addresses and improves:

 

  • Communication styles and emotional needs

  • Relationship priorities

  • Family and friend issues

  • Sex and intimacy

  • Children and parenting styles

  • Expectations and coping skills

  • Past experiences/trauma

  • Spirituality

 

 

Same-Sex Couples Therapy

 

If you’ve read through the couples and partner therapy sections, you may be wondering, “Isn't this the same for couples of the same sex?”  Well, yes…and no.  While couples and partners can have similar umbrella issues, every relationship has its own set of challenges. 

 

Some areas of concern for same-sex couples may include:

 

  • Individual acceptance and comfort with your sexuality

  • Past relationship experiences

  • Support from family and friends

  • Intimacy issues

  • Deciding whether or not to start a family

  • Parenting ideals and skills

  • Trust and acceptance